How to Legally Protect Your LGBTQ+ Family
Is your LGBTQ family as legally protected as you think it is?
LGBTQ+ family law attorney Rachel Levy joins Jaimie to break down the legal steps queer and trans families should know about—from confirmatory and second-parent adoption to donor agreements, estate planning, healthcare decisions, name changes, gender markers, and more.
Rachel explains why being listed on your child's birth certificate may not be enough to establish parental rights, what families using known donors should put in writing, and why finding an attorney who actually understands LGBTQ+ family law matters.
They also dig into the realities facing trans adults and parents of trans kids right now, including name changes, document updates, privacy and safety concerns, and the enormous differences in protections from state to state. And while the political climate can feel terrifying, Rachel offers an important reminder: frightening headlines don't always tell the whole legal story, and meaningful protections for LGBTQ+ families are still advancing at the state level.
This episode isn't about panic. It's about knowing your rights, asking the right questions, and taking the extra steps that can help protect the people you love.
🏳️🌈 Key Takeaways
- A birth certificate may not be enough to establish parental rights.
- Confirmatory adoption can offer important legal protection.
- Put known-donor agreements in writing.
- Estate planning is essential for LGBTQ+ families.
- Find an LGBTQ+-competent lawyer who practices in your state.
- Parents of trans kids should understand name-change and gender-marker laws.
- LGBTQ+ protections vary significantly from state to state.
- Scary headlines don’t always reflect what’s actually happening legally.
- There’s no single “right” way for LGBTQ+ and trans people to navigate safety.
- The Uniform Parentage Act could help standardize protections across states.
🏳️🌈 About the guest(s)
Rachel Levy is an attorney with Jerner Law Group, an LGBTQ+ family law firm based in Philadelphia. Her practice focuses on adoption and assisted reproductive technology (ART), estate planning, family building, and transgender legal issues, including name changes and legal affirmation. Rachel is passionate about helping LGBTQ+ families understand their rights and take the legal steps needed to protect themselves and their children.
🏳️🌈 Resources Mentioned
Jerner Law’s LGBTQ+ Resources Hub: www.jernerlaw.com/lgbtq-resources/
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